Remember, you don't have to tell everybody, only those who you trust and want or need to tell. Carefully consider how to tell others, and be patient when sharing with others that you're HIV positive. Sharing with others is a process that may require many discussions and considerations. This process is part of healthy disclosure. (Disclosure: The act or process of revealing or uncovering. American Heritage Dictionary)

Think of disclosing your HIV as the beginning of a new way to chat with the ones you most love and trust. Not only will they learn about you through this process, but you'll learn a lot about yourself as well. The starting point may be your saying "I have something to tell you -- I have HIV." But chances are that isn't going to be the final word.

Setting the stage for disclosure can make a big difference. Think about where you want to tell -- a place you feel comfortable and safe. If possible, line up some place safe for you to go after you tell someone for the first time, like a friend's house or a support group.

Consider bringing a few HIV pamphlets for the person you're telling. Not only might they use these resources later, but having them helps that person know you're not alone, that there's support for you, and for them. Consider bringing someone who already knows you're living with HIV.

Remember that their first reaction is not going to be their last. Like you, those who you love need time to adjust to this new information.